The Men Too Suffer…

I can write about Indian perspectives of being a man. In fact I have been thinking about writing about the problems suffered by our men in society.

I have written couple of articles regarding women issues. But as every coin has two sides, similarly every gender has its own issue. As a feminist it’s my responsibility to address every gender issue into limelight.

Let’s analyze the mens’ world. And it’s a long post indeed.

If you are an Indian men, then welcome to the world of responsibilities and over emotional attachments, that may suffocate you throughout life.

I know Indian mothers are one of the best creatures in the world. But sometimes, actually many times they don’t let go of their children, and specially sons. This is harsh but Indian parents spoil their sons way much. Unknowingly or knowingly they keep pampering him like he is the only thing matters in this world. As a result of which those poor boys grows into big children in future.

Indian men are often accused of “Not handling rejection in a good way.” Well it’s not their fault. It’s the way they have been brought up in families.( This is changing gradually in families and it’s good for all).

Another harsh reality Indian men fall into after their marriage. As our families are struggling between tradition and new found personal life concept, it’s the men who suffer the most in such situations.

For example- Ram is the only son of Mr. and Mrs. Das. Ram’s Mom is a lovely lady who dots on him obviously. She one-day asked him to bring her daughter in-law as she wants to see grandchildren ( The missile logic to get children married).

Ram got married to an educated girl called Sita. Sita works in a corporate office. After six months of happiness, one day Sita complains to Ram that her mother in law is insulting her in front of others saying “What does she know about maintaining a house, as she is barely there?”

Ram asked her mother about this. Guess what she just rolled down with years and told that “I didn’t realise that your not mine anymore. You will listen to your woman now onwards. I am sorry I will not tell anything to her as an elder.”

Ram consoled his mother and asked Sita to tolerate a bit. Her immediate response was “ I knew you are a Mamma’s boy. If you would listen to your mom, why did you marry me on the first place.”Ram again consoled her.

Who is the worst suffering person in this family drama?

Sita…No.

Mom…No. The worst suffering person in family dramas are always the men( Here Ram). They just get pissed between job, parent’s tantrums, wife’s issues and everywhere he is the one expected to say “Yes, you are right.” Apart from this, if anything else comes out a man’s mouth, he turns into a monster for everyone else.

The Wisdom of Money –

People often accuse men of being beauty hunters. The complain of many girl is “ He left me for a beautiful girl.”

Well there is the women side of preferences too. They are-

Many women are never happy with the salary or earning of their husband. They keep comparing themselves with the creamy layer above them and bring this issue every now and then.

Many women keep comparing their maternal money, status, family background etc. while there is some odd situations in in-laws. They forget how much it hurts any person be a man or woman, when anyone pokes their family.

Many women keep complaining or bitching about other women to their husbands or boyfriends or just male friend. They don’t get it that men just don’t care about those.

If you can’t spend much for your girlfriend, they you can’t complain if she leaves you.

Boys are taught to be strong and no crying creatures. Why? I don’t understand.

They are debarred of wearing pink or cherry colour. Again, why?

They are termed as gay if they hold another boy’s hand. While girls can hug each other and walk the whole walk holding hands without any odd eye.

When it’s rape/dowry/domestic violence , people always think men are the criminals. Why? Women can harrass men too. Women can torture men too. Women can charge false cases too.

When it’s a line be in bank or post office. Women do always break the line and nobody can say them anything. If it’s a train line and your train is late, then fine. But in banks, post office etc. there is no need of women to sideway their works breaking line unless they are disabled.

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I can go on like this. And many women will pull their hair out of anger for my answer. Don’t be outraged. We must look after issues men face and women face. Then only we can figure out a balanced society. Or else we keep bashing each other and die one day for nothing.

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The Media of India

 

The role of media in both countries is to sort out differences and communication gap between us. But they are playing the exact opposite roles. It will take me a day or more to describe how media in both the countries are gradually destroying and manipulating the little amount balance India-Pakistan have left.

For example – Take the recent election in Pakistan. Indian media has covered the election more than Pakistan media itself, telling Indians things they don’t want to know or simply don’t have any connection with. I mean literally, why the hell do Indians want to know how much wealth Mr. Imran Khan has? But our media channels are obsessed over it. They didn’t left any chance to portray him as “Taliban Khan”. I mean really?

Our upfront media even did a DNA(Daily News Analysis) on Pakistan’s general election, which basically covered everything we don’t care about Mr. Imran Khan.

Then came the next episode where Imran Khan won the election. Before he takes any oath, our media left no bar to publish articles about “What India can expect from Mr. Imran Khan as Prime Minister of Pakistan.” It literally ached my brain. I mean when can we learn that, no matter who is in the prime seat, our foreign affairs with each other will always be gloomy as it used to be. Because, every other Prime minister would want to regain the seat for next term and follow the appeasement tactics. This is valid for both the countries.

Now let’s come to the another side of the border. Yes, we are going to read about the great Pakistani media houses. I sometimes laugh the way their national media report on void. At least Indian media covers those shitty news behind cheesy words and make them sound like some intellectual debates. But Pakistan media is so transparent that they say whatever they feel like in front of camera.

Their UNO ambassador shows fake Palestine photo claiming it to be Indian Human rights issue in front of odd hundred international members from different countries all over the world. I really appreciate their guts.

During Indo-China conflict in Doklam, their upfront media broadcasted a news claiming the war had already been started and more than fifty Indian soldiers had already died against Chinese attack. This just blew our mind to hell. How can national medias be so irresponsible?

And any moment our Prime Minister Mr. Modi starts a foreign visit, it becomes their news headline researching the hidden propaganda against them. Seriously?

Media at each side play foul. Neither side is fair. But sometimes they just cross the limit.

Media is considered as the fourth pillar of democracy in India. I am sure Pakistan also has some important responsibility for its media. But playing blame game only won’t help neither side to sort out those zig-zag  complications. Generations after generation they would grow into further bitterness.

So right now the only role media are playing is to spread hatred.