Feminism in India is dying

Feminism has reached in such a state that it is being mocked all over the world. True feminists are almost extinct and in name of feminists we mostly have bunch of #Me Too campaigners as well as some actresses and some so called comedians.

In a similar way Indian feminism also lacks ideal feminists in number at present. There are some sophisticated so called feminist who would fight over their right to show their bra- straps in public in name of “ My dress, my choice.” At the same time they would mock village women, who don’t use bra for cupping their breasts. Our feminists would teach them to use a bra is part of modernization and female right.

They would go to swimming pool wearing bikini and if anyone stares they would call them sociopath. At the same time they would raise their eyebrows if they ever see in village ponds women are taking bath covering their whole body with saree. They would mark it disgusting and write about it on their feministic posts that how women in rural India are unaware of civilized manners.

Tell me one thing, how many business women or professionally successful women are coming forward now a days as a true feminist who would fight for equal right, but not for privileges. Time has come that, feminists have started thinking that female privilege is a part of equal right.

And don’t let me start with the dual faced feminist celebrities who keep shouting against everyone they had a relationship with in past, calling them harassers, while when it comes to their own father, brother or husband they are all twisting their tongue about how unfair the social paradox is. It’s people like them, who are making feminism a butt of joke.

But does that mean India doesn’t require feminism? No, not at all…

India is one of the most needy places where female do need protection and rights against malnutrition to sexual abuses. Feminist movement at grassroot level where women don’t get to eat or eat only the left overs, women who don’t get proper medication and die while childbirth, women who get tortured for dowry or any other reason are much needed, women who would stay in a dead marriage just because Indian society has no better place for a divorced women. But do those areas get our page 3 feminists attention? I am sure no.

I am excluding few pre social services before any beauty pegeant, done by models just to add charity to their profile. I am here talking about real women related issue. The issues which would take a feminist to put forward like Nadia Murad . Before getting Nobel prize she was a sex slave and sustained hell. Now she is spreading awareness and helping such women to resist and revive their lives. That’s a true feminist. Can people mock at her and her work or her speech? I don’t think so.

But if bunch of female comedians state slang on social media as symbol of their feminist “ privilege”, who wouldn’t mock them. And sadly that how Indian feminazzis are shitting on every feminist principle ever made. They have turned it into a offensive word. Like people would hesitate to talk to you if you say that you are a feminist. They would mock like “ Ohh! You too.”

Some weirdos has turned feminism into an element of mock and now others are bearing the mockery.

And that’s why feminism in India has become directionless and mostly misguided.

Sources of the images –

https://www.google.co.in/amp/s/www.nytimes.com/2016/12/30/opinion/sunday/feminism-lost-now-what.amp.html
https://www.flickr.com/photos

https://www.google.co.in/search?q=book+of+nadia+murad

The Gender Equality is a Myth in India

Is gender equality a myth in India? Many would argue that no. Our Constitution in fact provides the gender equality as much as possible. But I am not talking about what the laws are or what it should be. I am presenting here real life, real cases of gender inequality in India. We have to remember that gender inequality affects both men and women and not only women.

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Go to an average household of India. It would be better if they are your known people. Ask the woman of the house around three thousand rupees for help. She will at first say that She must ask her husband, even if she has the money.

Ask the same to the man of the house. He will either give you the money or refuse you, but he will not ask his wife about that.

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A girl is walking on the road in India. A boy’s hand mistakenly touches her shoulder. Suddenly she would start screaming and accusing the boy for mistreatment. The people around them without having a second thought would start beating the boy black and blue.

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Siya married to Hari in an arranged marriage. After three years Siya got pregnant. Against her wishes her in-laws forced her to abort the child as it was a girl.

Two years later Siya gave birth to a son. The family is nurturing their child like a prince.

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A girl got raped. The law could not punish the rapists due to lack of evidence. The society couldn’t accept the rape victim as her purity is gone in hands of morons.

She committed suicide( This happend in Odisha in recent).

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There are lots of such incidents that define how horrible is our gender inequality. The gender related laws in India are always biased to either of the gender. Either they favour men or they favour women , but never balance up.

For example- There is maternity leave for women in India. But if a man wants to take paternal leave, he will be toyed among all. Because we still consider that in parenting sperm is the only thing men give.

Now tell me “Is gender equality a myth in India?”

It’s a social hallucination that Indians are living. Irrespective of our gender, we have been facing gender inequalities since childhood. Laws won’t work if our mind and prejudices won’t change.

Source of the image –

http://madan.org.il/en/news/sex-ed-around-world

Sabarimaala Temple and the chaos around it..

Well this is not an article to argue whether or there should be law for entering women into particular temples where previously they were denied to. No I won’t discuss that here, as it’s has already been discussed, shouted out and more over Supreme court has given its statement that women can enter into Sabarimala temple. So now, there is further chows where some are still opposing the entry of women and some are trying to get into it. In this process, there was a 52 years old woman who got injured.

My question is, can’t we women wait little bit more? I mean what’s the hurry to enter into the temple? Supreme court already has given women the authority to enter into the temple. But the sentiments of many common folk can’t be changed overnight after the verdict of the apex court. So let them be acquainted with the situation at first.

More over if we practically think of the norms and the situations inside the Sabarimala temple, then it’s not a women friendly zone. The annual pilgrimage starts and it’s has its own customs. One of the main custom is to take a bath in Pamba river and then to spend the night on under open sky.

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There is no toilet for women inside the temple too. If women want to go into the temple, they have to obey the rituals too. So how can the temple authorities would provide them all arrangements in such a short period of time?

Apart from all these, my main concern is, if we really want to prove our devotion to God, is going into a particular temple is the only way to do it? I don’t think so. I understand that this matter has changed its motto from devotion of women to women rights. But, but… even if we enter into Sabarimala temple, will it be the true triumph for women rights? If we look back our ancient legends in Santana drama, time to time women have proved that they need no temple or any medium for submitting their devotion to their God. Meera Bai, Shabari etc. are few names among them. So right now dragging this entry, no entry issues into at some another level, is that absolutely necessary.

In modern day clubs, they mostly won’t allow if you are single. We obey that without any complaints. There are some temples which won’t allow men to enter and women to enter into it only.

  • Kamakshya Temple, VisakahaVisak,
  • Lord Brahma Temple, Pushkar
  • Santoshi Maa Temple, everywhere in India.

And many more.

Now, what? Would men start a protest too?

We shouldn’t mix modern day gender right issues with ancient religious principles. They have their own set of claws. If we want to break them, then we have to break and modify them all. Because partiality in gender issues is another discrimination, be it for men or women.

Source of the images –

https://www.innovations-report.com/html/reports/environment-sciences/comparing-nutrient-pollution-the-indian-pamba-river-and-the-weser.html

The Men Too Suffer…

I can write about Indian perspectives of being a man. In fact I have been thinking about writing about the problems suffered by our men in society.

I have written couple of articles regarding women issues. But as every coin has two sides, similarly every gender has its own issue. As a feminist it’s my responsibility to address every gender issue into limelight.

Let’s analyze the mens’ world. And it’s a long post indeed.

If you are an Indian men, then welcome to the world of responsibilities and over emotional attachments, that may suffocate you throughout life.

I know Indian mothers are one of the best creatures in the world. But sometimes, actually many times they don’t let go of their children, and specially sons. This is harsh but Indian parents spoil their sons way much. Unknowingly or knowingly they keep pampering him like he is the only thing matters in this world. As a result of which those poor boys grows into big children in future.

Indian men are often accused of “Not handling rejection in a good way.” Well it’s not their fault. It’s the way they have been brought up in families.( This is changing gradually in families and it’s good for all).

Another harsh reality Indian men fall into after their marriage. As our families are struggling between tradition and new found personal life concept, it’s the men who suffer the most in such situations.

For example- Ram is the only son of Mr. and Mrs. Das. Ram’s Mom is a lovely lady who dots on him obviously. She one-day asked him to bring her daughter in-law as she wants to see grandchildren ( The missile logic to get children married).

Ram got married to an educated girl called Sita. Sita works in a corporate office. After six months of happiness, one day Sita complains to Ram that her mother in law is insulting her in front of others saying “What does she know about maintaining a house, as she is barely there?”

Ram asked her mother about this. Guess what she just rolled down with years and told that “I didn’t realise that your not mine anymore. You will listen to your woman now onwards. I am sorry I will not tell anything to her as an elder.”

Ram consoled his mother and asked Sita to tolerate a bit. Her immediate response was “ I knew you are a Mamma’s boy. If you would listen to your mom, why did you marry me on the first place.”Ram again consoled her.

Who is the worst suffering person in this family drama?

Sita…No.

Mom…No. The worst suffering person in family dramas are always the men( Here Ram). They just get pissed between job, parent’s tantrums, wife’s issues and everywhere he is the one expected to say “Yes, you are right.” Apart from this, if anything else comes out a man’s mouth, he turns into a monster for everyone else.

The Wisdom of Money –

People often accuse men of being beauty hunters. The complain of many girl is “ He left me for a beautiful girl.”

Well there is the women side of preferences too. They are-

Many women are never happy with the salary or earning of their husband. They keep comparing themselves with the creamy layer above them and bring this issue every now and then.

Many women keep comparing their maternal money, status, family background etc. while there is some odd situations in in-laws. They forget how much it hurts any person be a man or woman, when anyone pokes their family.

Many women keep complaining or bitching about other women to their husbands or boyfriends or just male friend. They don’t get it that men just don’t care about those.

If you can’t spend much for your girlfriend, they you can’t complain if she leaves you.

Boys are taught to be strong and no crying creatures. Why? I don’t understand.

They are debarred of wearing pink or cherry colour. Again, why?

They are termed as gay if they hold another boy’s hand. While girls can hug each other and walk the whole walk holding hands without any odd eye.

When it’s rape/dowry/domestic violence , people always think men are the criminals. Why? Women can harrass men too. Women can torture men too. Women can charge false cases too.

When it’s a line be in bank or post office. Women do always break the line and nobody can say them anything. If it’s a train line and your train is late, then fine. But in banks, post office etc. there is no need of women to sideway their works breaking line unless they are disabled.

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I can go on like this. And many women will pull their hair out of anger for my answer. Don’t be outraged. We must look after issues men face and women face. Then only we can figure out a balanced society. Or else we keep bashing each other and die one day for nothing.

Source of the image – https://unsplash.com/collections/1320006/blue